So anyway, I've been thinking all day about that desiccated horse carcass that I was beating up on this morning (although, considering the subject matter, that may not be the best idiom) and I finally figured out the way to make the hurting stop, and it was so obvious that I felt a little silly that it had taken me so long.
The reason this is still bothering me after all these years is that I haven't forgiven any of those folks. I haven't forgiven Paul Haggis et. al. for making Crash and I haven't forgiven AMPAS for favoring it over my beloved Brokeback Mountain. If I can forgive them, then it won't hurt anymore. So I'm working on that now.